Negative Nancy

“Stop being such a negative Nancy”

My roommate/big brother Alex told me this as we sat down for our Sunday breakfast….Vince laughed hysterically and I gave Alex the same annoyed stare Deniro gave Joe Pesci while he was yelling at him in the middle of the desert.

While Alex may overuse the phrase and for the sake of his own well being, probably should know better than to insult me on a day I’m fasting (I should probably be in a cave somewhere when I’m in this kind of mood) he was absolutely right….I should stop being so negative. Around this time two years ago, I was probably the most negative and cynical I’ve ever been….and coincidentally, this is around the same time I started my blog….which if you look back were pretty damn cynical. I had just lost my job, just graduated, failing at starting a business, and pretty much hated anything that smiled or wasn’t as miserable as I was.

Around this same time I was training my good friend Brenda Lomeli, who pretty much had the exact opposite view as I did…she did what she wanted, loved what she did, and had an amazing time doing it…meanwhile I was hating life, not enjoying what I was doing, and make everyone suffer around me. While it took some time, I think Brenda’s outlook on life slowly started rubbing off on me…life is pretty fucking awesome, we should enjoy as much of it as we can and take advantage of every opportunity to enjoy it while we’re here.

You may not have the same view point as I do, which is fine you can kiss my ass…but think back to all of the successful people you know, how many of them reached the levels of success they have with a shitty outlook on life? How many people you look up to, who actually reached their goals, did so thinking that they couldn’t the entire time? I do know of one guy….but he’s absolutely miserable and if he ever comes back to Arizona I’m cracking him one in the jaw. I’m not saying a positive attitude will get you everywhere either….I think the idea of “just thinking it will happen, will make it so” is a farse. I'm not saying you have to paint on a fake smile, act like everything's perfect, and give everyone a hug....I probably hate positive pete as much as I hate negative nancy...but I do believe a strong positive attitude, a belief in one’s abilities, and ACTION will produce some amazing results. I’m beginning to hate cynicism….it gets you nowhere, ages you faster, and while there’s no scientific research to prove it….I think it makes you smell bad.